Lately my friends have been revealing a lot about MY personal life. They educate me on things like Ryan's job changes, future moves or if we are going to have more kids... some things I don't even know about. I usually shrug and laugh and inform them that "Ryan doesn't talk to me."
Honestly, Ryan does talk to me. We talk about these important life decisions, but those conversations often don't come to a conclusion. We never actually decide on an answer, probably because we get distracted by kids, work, callings, the latest episode of Friday Night Lights on Netflix, etc.
As friends clue me in on my life, I have started to realize that Ryan does, on his own, come to conclusions about our future decisions; and then he tells his friends, the husbands of my friends; who go home and inform my friends; who blab it all to me.
As a group of friends, we were laughing (because I really do think it is funny) about how far in the dark I really am about my future plans and my friend's husband said, "Megan, if you want to get Ryan talking, you need to go golfing with him."
It suddenly all made sense. If you have four hours alone with someone on a quiet golf course, you are bound to get some dirt, and I am not talking about stray divet shrapnel. So you know what I did? I told Ryan to schedule a tee time.
It has been more than five years since I picked up clubs, but I was willing to sacrifice my pride if it meant having some serious grown-up talk.
(I know, right? I make this sport look good)
I was a much better golfer than I ever remembered. It was a par-3 course so it didn't take four hours and it wasn't so discouraging (I never hit 10 strokes!). I even beat Ryan on one of the holes (celebration pictured below).
We ended up joking and laughing the entire time. We actually didn't discuss anything serious at all.
I guess I have to schedule another tee time.
Disclaimer: This is a light-hearted post that has been exaggerated slightly for effect. Don't think my marriage is on the rocks or anything from reading this... unless, of course you hear that from Ryan. ;-)